What Are The Most Important Attributes A Man Need in A Woman?

What Are The Most Important Attributes A Man Needs in A Woman?

I’ll be honest. But I’ll only list a few important attributes a man needs in a woman:

  • Beauty
  • Good health
  • Same religion
  • Good heart
  • Intelligence
  • Good family
  • Patience

Is That All?

No that isn’t all. There are many more. Yet every man has different preferences and priorities.

How Do I Keep Up With It?

You really don’t have to.

What you should do depends on your current situation: are you still looking for a man, or you’re already in a relationship with a man?

If You’re Still Looking…

There are “only” three things to do:

  1. For those attributes you’re already good at, keep it up! For example, if you’re a good listener (yep, a rarity among women), see if your crush appreciates it.
  2. For those attributes you’re not so good at, make effort to improve at least some of it, gradually.
  3. For those attributes you’re terrible at, you’ll need to fix it. For example, if you’re rude and mean to (some) people, it’s time to learn how to be polite and compassionate.

While I said “only”, it’s actually a lifetime work. But you need to start now.

If You’re Already In A Relationship…

It’s actually easier, as you just need to ask him. He’ll need to be honest. He may try to be sweet and say “you’re already perfect” and if you’re content with it then it’s fine. But in a healthy relationship it’s better to understand each other’s expectations. You may not fulfill every expectation he has (it’s practically impossible for that), and he also may not fulfill every expectation you have (which is even beyond impossible, ha!)

There is always a reason to improve yourself.

And in the unfortunate case if you later break up with him, you’ll become a better person.

I Feel Ugly, What Choices Do I Have?

Improve your health and your attitude, be a fun and warm person.

The reason is there are several (actually many!) traits men want from women, looks is only one factor.

Other than inner beauty (attitude), health is probably most overlooked. Not smoking, not drinking alcohol, and a healthy habit of exercise and hygiene care is a plus that will be appreciated by him and his family. You’re right that (too much) make up is not good, it can even be bad for your skin’s health.

Being more intelligent is another way. But being intelligent and nice at the same time, that takes practice and sincerity. And that makes a woman more attractive than other not-so-intelligent and not-so-nice women, regardless of looks.

There’s no need to deny that attractive women do have more choices in attracting men, even the simple act of them being there can attract men. Accept that fact and realize that unattractive women still have choices too.

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Why Is A Girl Rude to You (As A Boy)

Why Is A Girl Rude to You (As A Boy)

Are Beautiful Girls Better or Worse Than Ugly Girls?

Some girls are better than others, but usually the “score” is relative to what traits that each guy wants. For example, which one do you value better: her cooking skills or academic accomplishments? Different guys will answer differently, and that goes on for other things.

But even that “scoring” is independent to how a girl looks.

Yet in the real world, a girl’s behavior is shaped by the environment and people’s behavior around her. That’s what caused what you perceive as “ugly girls behavior” versus “beautiful girls behavior” stereotypes. Rather than thinking of beautiful girls negatively, you should try to understand what triggers a girl’s good and bad behaviors. Usually it involves understanding more about her background.

As a simple example, in any given situation, it’s far more likely for a beautiful girl to get a smile, a nice greeting, an “I like you” message, a dinner invitation, up to sexual harassment, than an ugly girl. As you can imagine, a beautiful girl gets a multiply of not just the good things but also the terrible things that can happen to her. So a girl’s behavior will reflect her past experience.

You should make effort so that the good girls will treat you well (regardless of their looks), and the bad girls (again, regardless of their looks)… well I don’t think it does you any good to be near them anyway. Ask yourself: have ever mistreated a good beautiful girl just because you put them in the same camp as beautiful girls (who are “automatically” bad)?

Beautiful girls’ “bad” behavior is caused by an environment that is psychologically unhealthy. In my experience, in a healthy environment, the beautiful girls will actually be nicer than ugly ones because they’re consistently being treated positively. The ugly girls tend to be not as nice because they get less positive reactions from the people around them. Research by Jackson and Huston in 2014 mentions that “physically attractive females evidencing greater assertiveness than their less physically attractive counterparts.” It’s unfortunate, but that’s what reality gives us.

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