How to Find The Woman of Your Dreams

How to Find The Woman of Your Dreams

Keep knowing people.

I’ve learned that the best way to find the woman of your life is to befriend the potential love partners that you meet in your life, until you have the capability to make a firm decision.

Being in a relationship, without clear purpose and time limit, will make it harder for you to be decisive.

If you find that you’re unable to attract the women you like, that means you need to improve yourself. But you can improve yourself without being in a relationship, actually it makes it easier, since being in a relationship (with a woman you don’t really want to get married to) may make you “lazy to improve”.

When you have attained your decisiveness, then you can decide whether a woman is good enough for you to move into serious relationship towards marriage, considering all the trade-offs (your age, her age, job, lifestyle, her potential to be snatched by other, etc.). No more gray area.

Are There (Many) Women in This World Who Can Be My “Miss Right” But That I May Never Meet?

Yes, that is why it’s important for you to make effort to improve yourself, as well as increase your chances of meeting women.

Why is improving yourself important? Because a simplistic way to say this statistically is that you need to know there are two groups of women:

  1. Single women who may like you. The more attractive you are (both physical and non-physical attributes), the more women are in this group. Any undesirable and negative attributes you have will decrease the numbers.
  2. Single women who you like (“Miss Right”). The more attributes you desire from a woman, the women in this group will be smaller.

Those “Miss Right” are women who happen to belong to both groups at once. This is important because no matter how many women that fit into your criteria, you won’t have a chance of good relationship even if you meet them unless you also meet her criteria.

So, start improving yourself. Perhaps all this time you’ve been meeting these “Miss Right” women all along, but they didn’t notice you.

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Can You Marry Someone With A Different Religion?

Can You Marry Someone With A Different Religion?

The person I love is from a different religion. She thinks it won’t work, her parents wouldn’t approve. What should I do?

This is so much more about risk than it is about her parents (and yours).

Different religion will bring risks and challenges during both of your life together, your children’s life, relationship with neighbors, society, and families.

These risks and challenges are on top of other risks and challenges you’ll face because of personality, conflicting values, economy, faithfulness, and so on.

Religion won’t be the only problem you’ll face, but you’ll wish you don’t have that problem when you have other problems piling up on you. Life isn’t a game where you can reset and replay. Life has serious permanent consequences, especially when you make a big mistake.

My Advice?

Work on improving your attractiveness. Your question is result of tunnel vision, you may feel that you’re on a tight situation, but actually you can make effort to expand your choices.

Besides, if she already feels that it won’t work, that means the only reason left why she’s still into you is because you currently don’t have another choice. But what happens if you do have a choice?

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Why Would Anyone Marry Me? I Have Many Issues

Why Would Anyone Marry Me? I Have Many Issues

Having issues do reduce your chances of getting a spouse, as there are traits men want from women (and vice versa).

While I or anyone can always pick a few anecdotes of highly unlikely marriages, I don’t think it’s wise to depend so much on luck.

On the other hand, you can also increase your chances of marriage, summed up in “only” three things to do:

  1. For those attributes you’re already good at, keep it up! For example, if you’re a good listener, see if your crush appreciates it.
  2. For those attributes you’re not so good at, make effort to improve at least some of it, gradually.
  3. For those attributes you’re terrible at, you’ll need to fix it. For example, if you’re rude and mean to (some) people, it’s time to learn how to be polite and compassionate.

While I said “only”, it’s actually a lifetime work. But you need to start now.

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